Permission before content
Would a conversation about this feel welcome right now?
Each person answers for themselves before any subject is opened.
Library · Conversation cards
One careful opening at a time.
Choose a card only after mutual permission. Read it aloud, change its language, pass it, close it, or leave it unused. The set is not a sequence, compatibility exercise, consent calculator, or requirement to disclose.
Before drawing a card
Permission applies to the card, the subject, and continuing.
- Ask whether a card feels welcome before revealing its subject.
- Either person may pass without explaining.
- Re-check permission when the conversation changes.
- If refusal is unsafe or ignored, stop using the cards.
Eight cards · No required order
Open a distinction without deciding the person.
Every card carries a question, an invitation, and a limit on what the conversation can establish.
Permission can change
Does this still feel welcome—or would you rather pause, skip, stop, or change the subject?
Ask again when the subject, pace, emotional conditions, or willingness changes.
Several truths
What did your body do, what was the experience like, and what did you want or not want?
Let bodily response, experience, pleasure, wanting, consent, and meaning differ.
Observation and interpretation
What did you observe—and what meaning did you give it?
Name an interpretation as an interpretation rather than direct access to another person.
Conditions between us
What makes speaking, refusing, understanding, or remaining uncertain safer or harder here?
Notice privacy, power, pace, dependence, history, attention, and consequences.
Difference without a verdict
What is your account, and which part are you least certain about?
Hold two accounts without forcing agreement, erasing facts, or diagnosing motive.
Repair without entitlement
What impact, responsibility, boundary, action, distance, or changed condition matters now?
Receive impact without making intention or distress cancel what another person reports.
Close deliberately
Would you like to continue, revisit something, change the subject, take space, or stop?
End with a choice rather than treating the last prompt as a completion requirement.
A complete ending
The conversation does not owe the card an answer.
Put the card away when either person wants less conversation. Nothing needs to be resolved, recorded, summarized, or converted into a shared interpretation.
Page record
Status, sources, and boundary
- Record
- NSX-CARDS-001
- Version
- 0.1
- Last revised
- 2026-08-11
- Boundary
- Cards never substitute for consent, require disclosure, establish compatibility, or make an unsafe refusal mutual.